My boss handled the situation with admirable competence. His first question was, “What can I do to make things easier for you?” He was willing to talk about cancer directly, without euphemisms, and without making it awkward or uncomfortable. He asked if I had support at home, how I had managed other crises, and what I needed to stay at work if that was what I wanted. It was never intrusive—just thoughtful and professional.
At the same time, I noticed my colleagues began avoiding me. I understood it wasn’t out of malice but uncertainty. They probably didn’t know what to say or do. My boss saw this, and his role as a leader became even more important.
He had a clear principle: We don’t talk about people—we talk with them. He encouraged my colleagues to reach out to me directly, to ask how I wanted to be treated, instead of avoiding me or speculating. That sense of security meant so much to me. I didn’t have to wonder what others were thinking or feeling—I knew the door was open for honest conversations.
Having a boss who is secure in facing uncomfortable situations, who leads both the person affected and their colleagues, makes an invaluable difference. It has allowed me to keep working and feel normal in a situation that is anything but normal.
Have a brilliant day!
Ulf Lidman
